|Posted by Aura Charisse on October 11, 2014 at 2:35 AM|
You know what pisses me off? THIS.
"Oh you look so pretty, who are you dressed up for?"
"It's okay, you don't have to dress up. There won't be guys there anyway."
"You don't have to put makeup. It's just going to be us girls."
Really. Are you kidding me?
I absolutely hate it when people assume that you get yourself pretty and all dressed up solely to get the attention of a guy. Please. We, ladies, don't dress up and wear makeup for the sake of impressing a guy. It's a superficial thing to be anything different than yourself for a guy. For one, he may ultimately be attracted to a different person than who you really are.
Let's say wearing feminine outfits and applying makeup isn't your cup of tea, but you do it anyway --- even if it's against your will and even if it's causing you much discomfort --- in hopes of getting him to like you. Instead of wearing your usual big shirt and baggy jeans, you put on pieces of clothing which are 'foreign' to you. Of course, this is completely fine if you enjoyed it and realized that you actually like the look, but if it was more of a dragging experience than a fun one, it's not worth it. Not only did you fake yourself in front of another person but you also failed to give your real self justice.
And who says you can't rock a big shirt and a pair of baggy jeans to a date? You can totally kill this look with the right combination of pieces, without sacrificing your own preference. Dress up because you want to! Get all dolled up because you like it! Wear those five-inch heels because you enjoy strutting in stilettos! Not because someone pushes you to get dressed. Not because you feel pressured to look pretty for a date. And definitely not because you want to get a guy's attention.
Please, people, can we not limit a woman's sense of style to the irrelevant approval of a guy?
I dress up because I want to. I dress up because I want to explore fashion. I dress up because I want to look decent. I dress up because I want to feel good about myself. I dress up simply because I want to. I certainly don't dress up under the mercy of a guy.
Unless it's Giorgio Armani, Ralph Lauren or Stefano Gabbana, then their opinions ARE relevant but if it's trying to get the attention of someone you like, forget it. You shouldn't even be trying to get the attention of a guy. They should be getting your attention. Take note of this ladies!
This is for myself.
Hair & Makeup by Angel of Jesi Mendez Salon
Disclaimer: This is my opinion and I'm entitled to it. Also, I'm not a man hater. This is not a sponsored post.